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“I love you; you
love me; we’re a happy family ….” Do you remember that song
from childhood? You may even recognize it as the popular song Barney
sings. Through music we explore and learn about myths, ideals, and
the parameters of love.
With each year, our understanding of what we hear and feel in music
deepens, especially as we begin to experience love. We hear thoughts
similar to ours being sung on the radio. We listen with curiosity
and hope of happy endings or perhaps guidance to help us. We learn
that music intensifies our feelings, triggers emotions, and binds
memories forever to songs that are associated with our love lives.
We learn that music is our friend and our teacher. Because of this,
music has attained a central importance in the world of romance and
romantic relationships.
Musical Inspiration
Music can inspire or influence romance in so many ways. It’s hard
for music not to inspire; it stirs the emotions when singers sing
about love’s emotional extremes. When you hear a song that says,
“I’m in the mood for love simply because you’re near me,”
it’s hard to resist having an emotional reaction to what you hear.
Music facilitates romance between you and your partner by moving
both the intellect and emotions.
Music: A Course in Love
Now that you know how music can naturally foster romance, the
following tips will help you to use music in your own relationship
to increase romance between you and your partner:
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If you are out and
about doing something with your partner and you hear your
partner say, “Wow, I love that song,” don’t just let the
moment pass. Find out what the song is and buy it. Add it to
your romantic collection.
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If you attend a
Broadway show or a romantic film that moves you emotionally, buy
the soundtrack. This way, you’ll be able to bring back the
intense emotions you experienced again and again with your
partner.
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Jump at the chance
to dance together when music moves you.
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Going to
concerts—especially by singers well known for romantic ballads
— can put you in the middle of emotional moments that are
bigger than life.
Nancy Fagan, M.S.,
author of “The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Romance” and
“Desirable Men: How to Find Them.” To read more, visit www.ExpertDatingAdvice.com
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