While
doing my search for this idea, I came across something interesting
on the web. At a hospital the relatives gathered in the waiting
room, where a family member lay gravely ill. Finally, the doctor
came in looking tired and serious.
Surveying
the worried faces, the doctor said, "I'm afraid I'm the bearer
of bad news. The only hope left for your loved one at this time is a
brain transplant. It's an experimental procedure, very risky, you
will have to pay for the brain yourselves."
The
family members sat silent as they absorbed the news. After a great
length of time, someone asked, "Well, how much does a brain
cost?"
The
doctor quickly responded, "$5,000 for a male brain, and $200
for a female brain."
The
moment turned awkward. Men in the room tried not to smile; avoiding
eye contact with the women, but some actually smirked. One man,
unable to control his curiosity, blurted out the question everyone
wanted to ask, "Why is the male brain so much more
expensive?"
The
doctor smiled at the childish innocence and said to the entire
group, "It's just standard pricing procedure. We have to mark
down the price of the female brains, because they've been
used."
Keeping
all kidding aside, let’s answer this age old question; evaluate
what we know up to this point, scientifically as well as culturally.
Are women really superior to men?
Now
research is confirming that the brains of men and women are somewhat
different. Studies show that human male brains are, on average,
approximately 10 percent larger than female brains. Certain brain
areas in women, however, contain more nerve cells.
We
must pay special interest on the amount of “gray matter,” the
part of the brain that allows us to think. The researchers wanted to
know if women have as much gray matter as men or more to make up for
the smaller brains. Later, it was proven that women have 55.4
percent gray matter, vs. 50.8 in men.
Men
listen with only one side of their brains, while women use both,
according to information on brain imaging presented in November
2002, at the 86th Scientific Assembly and Annual Meeting of the
Radiological Society of North America (RSNA).
Other
research suggests that on average the female brain performs better
on some skills, while the male brain executes other tasks at a
higher level.
It
makes sense that brains vary between the sexes. Each sex had a very
defined role in ancient time, which helped ensure the survival of
the human race. Cave men hunted. Cave women gathered food near the
home, and cared for the children.
None
of these show superiority, but does show that we are made
differently, with different needs, and different ideas. Why do we
then compare for superiority, or even expect the other to be just
like us?
It is
important to realize that man and women are made differently, for a
reason. Especially women, need someone she can talk to, share her
ideas with and grow with. Man need to hunt, to protect, not ask for
directions when they are lost, or I should say just be Men.
In
old times, especially in Asian and Eastern cultures, women had many
disadvantages (compared to now). Male Emperors would marry many
women. Society did not provide woman with many rights. Women were
pretty much confined to their homes. However, despite of these
disadvantages, there were few women who had access to that woman
wisdom, or power. Now, what was the difference between those women,
who found their power, vs. those who did not?
The
answer is synergy. These powerful women were each other’s support.
No jealousies, no putting other women down; just supporting each
other to the best of their ability. In fact, when the male emperor
would mate with one of his wives, other wives would take care of
that wife ahead of time. Give her massages, feed her wonderful and
healthy foods, talk to her, and provide her with all the emotional
support that was needed.
Today,
women have more rights, more freedom, better living conditions. They
are lot more aggressive, but they still do not feel as empowered,
peaceful and in control.
In
today’s society, the concept of women bonding is pretty much lost.
Even when a woman goes to different feminine organizations, her goal
is networking, improving her business, and benefiting anything and
everything, but herself.
If
you pay close attention and realize that the difference between a
plant, which is alive, and a plant which is dead, is the plant which
is alive, is growing. In order for our children to survive, and
humankind to flourish in the future, our children must evolve beyond
us. In order for them to go beyond us, they need to understand life
from all points of view, both male and female. That is why we are
here, to teach, to guide, and to help the universe expand and evolve
with our differences.
One
day I was flipping TV channels where I came across one of those
shows where a priest was giving a sermon. He asked something very
interesting to his congregations. The question was, “What is the
best thing a father can do for their children”? The answer was
“Love their mother”. Now this is something I have learned all
through my life in my family as to how much powerful a woman can be.
I do not mean physically or even mentally. In fact, I grew up
learning that my brothers were much smarter and stronger then I was.
But there was always this converse of women power or women wisdom,
which was always talked about, but was never clarified.
Many
women do not realize that their superiority and strength comes from
bonding with other women. Man can’t full fill all of your needs
and desires. When it comes to emotional bonding, which usually comes
from talking, sharing and connecting, girlfriends are the key.
Cherish your friends, and specially your women friendships.
Both
Man and woman need to be supportive and a source of strength for
each other, but timing is the key. Women who have other women to
bond with, to share with, to educate and grow with, have more
peaceful marriages. These women do not desire to talk to their
husbands as soon as he walks into the home, tired from work. In
fact, they become source of strength and support for him.
More
then half of the marriages end up in divorce in this country. Some
time it feels that all the advancement are coming to us with a hefty
price. More and more women find themselves helpless, in one form or
the other. All it boils down to is that all the power and freedom
did not come with the wisdom it required. Woman before us got us the
power to move forward, now, it is our responsibility to add wisdom
to this power before passing on to our next generation.
The
difference between man and women are logical. It makes sense that
brains vary between the sexes. Men tend to be more natural-born
protectors while women are natural-born nurturers. When women use
these natural abilities to form, cultivate, and foster business
relationships, they can create lasting business associations in the
business circle.
To
answer the question, are women superior to men? The answer is, it
does not really matter, if we choose not to use that power and
wisdom already given to us. From the beginning of the time, only a
handful of women are using their full power and wisdom. They
understand, and choose to learn and choose to use their strengths.
Whether you are a at-home mom or a working women, understanding and
connecting with other woman, educating ourselves and truly
supporting each other, will help us be who we naturally are,
phenomenal women.
About
The Author
Salma Ajani is the Managing Consultant at Ajani & Associates.
She is a full-time professional speaker/trainer, author, and
consultant, and specializes in the concept of “Women and
Accelerating Change". She has worked with Anthony Robbins as a
Corporate Speaker, while traveling with his seminars all over the
country. Salma uses therapeutic models in her work, such as NLP (Neuro-Linguistic
Programming), Erickisonian Hypnosis, Virginia Satir's Family
Therapy, Silva Method, and Richard Bandler's DHE (Design Human
Engineering).
Contact: http://www.ajani.com/
salmaajani@ajani.com
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